How to Stay Focused

How to Stay Focused After Bariatric Surgery

Wandering minds struggle to stay focused.
1. Meditate
Meditation is a practice in focusing our attention and being aware of when it drifts, this actually improves our focus when we’re not meditating, as well. It’s a lasting effect that comes from regular bouts of meditation.

2. Spend time in nature
This is to help our brains switch off.
3. Lose yourself in something you enjoy
When you’re completely wrapped up in doing something easy that you enjoy, your inner dialogue switches off. This lets your mind rest and recoup the ability to focus on difficult tasks again later.
4. Keep your daily journal
Learn basic organizational skills. Write down responsibilities, keep food and exercise journal. Don’t set a deadline, set a schedule. We tend to focus on the end goal that we want to achieve and the deadline we want to do it by. If we don’t meet that deadline we set in the beginning then we feel like a failure. Sadly, the end result, is that we often give up if we don’t reach our goal by the initial deadline. Make a schedule to work towards your goal consistently, like your daily logs.
If you want to be the type of person who accomplishes things on a consistent basis, then give yourself a schedule to follow, not a deadline to race towards.

5. Get plenty of rest
You need at least 6-8 hours of sleep at night to be able to stay focused.

6. Relax
Relieve stress through relaxation techniques: deep breathing, meditation, rhythmic exercise, massage, and yoga. Laugh out loud. Listen to soothing music or nature sounds. These slows your heart rate, lowers blood pressure, slows breathing rate, increases blood flow to major muscles

7. Be Grateful
Remember all the things that are good in your life. Being grateful for your blessings cancels out negative thoughts and worries. Celebrate accomplishments.

8. Exercise
Go for a walk, take the stairs when you can, or do some stretching exercises. Just get moving. It helps if you do this with a friend. Vitamin D can ENHANCE WEIGHT LOSS, so Get Plenty of Sun – Walk in the Sun! Just don’t get sunburned!

9. Avoid unnecessary distractions
Don’t allow distractions to steal your attention from your goals. The computer, cell phone, and iPad all compete for your attention. The more multitasking you try to do, the harder it is for you to stay focused on any single task. Take a break from constant television, Internet, and email, social media, etc. The key to maintaining good focus is based on how well you inhibit the wrong things from coming into focus. So, inhibiting distractions is a core skill for staying focused. To avoid distractions it’s helpful to get into the habit of stopping the wrong behaviors early, quickly, and often, well before they take over. “Pay attention to your attention, and stop yourself from getting on the wrong train of thought early, before it takes over. This is the not being mindless, it’s being mindful.
10. Think and speak positively
Staying positive can help your remain grounded, even when your anxiety intensifies. When your thoughts are negative, do your best to only speak positively.

11. Attend Support Group
How much better to stay focused! You’re with people that are experiencing the same thing you are! The frequency of attendance is associated with greater weight loss… who knows better about what you are experiencing than the people you meet at these groups. This also helps keeps you accountable.

12. Assess and Re-Assess Your Goals
Assess your goals on a regular basis. One of the biggest mistakes people make is just setting one very long-term goal and then trying to pine away at that day after day after day. Don’t do this. All you’re going to do is lose focus and eventually fall off the bandwagon. Instead, set one long-term goal, and set some smaller goals that you’ll reach along the way. When you do this, then you have something to look forward to in the near future and it can help you keep your sights set on the prize. Set small rewards for reaching those goals, a pedicure, massage, or a week-end get away in those smaller pants.
Be sure to re-assess your long term goal and make sure it’s still valid. Sometimes people will find that their overall goal does change and it’s important that you update the long-term mission when it does. This will also go a long way towards keeping you focused.

13. Take A Few Progress Pictures/Measurements
Looking at yourself on a day to day basis it can get very difficult to see any of the changes that are taking place.
One of the best ways around this is to take progress pictures every two to four weeks. You may not notice a difference in your body over two to three days, but over two to three weeks it’s a whole different story.
By having those progress pictures to look at it can become clear in your mind just how much progress you really are making and this will go a long way towards boosting your overall motivation. Set a time once every month to take pictures and full body measurements. Keep a record of them in your journal.


“Since you need to push yourself to follow a new set of habits, you need to keep your focus on your objectives. You need to remind your mind of your main reason to adopt these new habits.” — Kenneth J Hutchins

“The only time you fail is when you fall down and stay down.” ― Stephen Richards
“Our way of thinking creates good or bad outcomes.” ― Stephen Richards
“Never confuse motion with action.” ― Benjamin Franklin

“The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear.” ― Brian Tracy

“The successful man is the average man, focused.” ― Unknown
“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” – Greg Anderson
“My main focus is on my game.” – Tiger Woods
“Whenever you want to achieve something, keep your eyes open, concentrate and make sure you know exactly what it is you want. No one can hit their target with their eyes closed.” – Paul Coelho
“Being selective—doing less—is the path of the productive. Focus on the important few and ignore the rest.” — Timothy Ferris
“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.” – Tony Robbins
“The sun’s energy warms the world. But when you focus it through a magnifying glass it can start a fire. Focus is so powerful!” — Alan Pariser
“No one ever gets anything worthwhile by accident.” — Dorothea S. Kopplin
“The inability to prioritize and focus also contributes to procrastination.” — Romuald Andrade
“Distractions are the prime enemy to rapid skill adaption. Distractions will stop focused practice and without focused practice there will be no improvement in acquiring that new skill.” — Shawn Allen
“The first step to moving past a limitation is to be clear as to what you want in the first place.”– Michael Ruderman

Changing Lives One Pound at a Time

Stefanie Bailey-DeskSandy Jennings, Bandera County Courier Staff Writer, interviewed Stefanie Bailey of Bariatric and Surgical Assistance and the article was printed in the June 2, 2016, paper.

When registered nurse Stefanie Bailey decided to open her business, Bariatric and Surgical Assistance, she brought 25 years of personal and professional experience with her.

When I had my surgery in 2002, the FDA had just approved the lap-band, although other countries had already approved and performed the surgery for eight to 10 years, Bailey said.

Following her surgery, Bailey found there was not a support system in place to help guide her from surgery to successful weight loss and healthy living so she started one.

In 2005, Bailey created the Surgical Weight Loss Manual and started a full program in Bryan, College Station. The program took the patient from pre-op, to surgery, to lifestyle changes necessary for maintaining a healthy weight.

I can guide clients through the process, from informing them of the requirements for insurance coverage, to preparing them for the surgery itself, to helping them make necessary lifestyle changes to guarantee success. I will be there for them, Bailey said. I believe there’s nothing we do in the medical field that improves lives and health as much as weight loss surgery.
In fact, Bailey hopes consistent research will show the successful correlation between ending diabetes through bariatric surgery with reconstruction to the digestive system, Most diabetic patients see results immediately after surgery before even leaving the hospital.

If you tell me I have a 90 percent chance of winning the lotto, I’m buying a ticket, Bailey said.

Bailey has watched bariatric surgery evolve from gastric bypass in the 1950s, through the lap-band in 2002, to the newest and most common weight loss surgery used as of 2015, the sleeve gastrectomy, which began in 2007.

A sleeve gastrectomy is another form of restrictive weight loss surgery. In the operation, the surgeon removes about 75 percent of the stomach. What remains of the stomach is a narrow tube or sleeve, which connects to the intestines. Because the intestines aren’t affected, a sleeve gastrectomy doesn’t affect how the body absorbs food, so patients are not likely to fall short on nutrients.

Bailey excitedly cites story after story of her clients all over the world that are experiencing incredible weight loss success following the sleeve gastrectomy surgery. Two of those clients, married couple Jason and Brandy Clark, live here in Bandera.
stefanie-bailey-sandy-jennings-jason-clarkThe Clarks, who were skeptical at first, watched their friends journey with Bailey through the process and were convinced. Stephanie did everything, Clark said. I called her and two weeks later I was there, having surgery.

Like many candidates, the Clarks traveled out of the country for their surgery since the cost averages 60 percent less than that in the United States.

In the last few years, with all the new changes in healthcare, insurance companies are not covering weight loss surgeries like they used to Bailey said. Over the years, she has teamed up with board certified surgeons with specialized experience and training in bariatric and metabolic surgery, in the United States and across the world.

Just to have somebody like Stefanie, who is educated in the field and has direct connections back to the doctors, is a tremendous help, Clark said. She’s there if we have any questions or if we run into hard spots. My only regret is that we didn’t do it sooner. Bailey’s enthusiasm and developed friendship towards the Clarks is apparent as she discusses their success.

Jason just had his surgery in March and has already lost 85 pounds, Bailey said. That’s why I enjoy what I do because he changes every time I open the door and see his face. I can’t stop smiling. I want to help people live healthier, happier lives.

Brandy, who completed surgery this past month has shed 35 pounds and their son, Jake, could not be happier for his parents. I’m so happy and proud of my parents, Jake said. My dad and my mom are constantly wanting to go and do stuff their new energy level is great. The family, who plans on celebrating with a vacation and a shopping trip for new clothes, shared a poignant moment. Last night, Jason found a pair of pants in the closet that hasn’t fit him in 12 years. He tried them on and they were baggy, Clark said. We all had to fight back the tears.

Bariatric and Surgical Assistance has two upcoming events, including a couples retreat and an informational conference “Is Weight Loss Surgery For Me”? For more information call Bailey at 888-624-4092, or visit the website at

Exercise is Not a 4-Letter Word

Over the last 13 years I am often asked by others what is the key to long-term success or ” Stefanie, how do I get Back on Track, break a stall, or get to my goal. Probably one of the hardest things for many of us is to find some kind of activity that we can truly enjoy and get our minds past the torture of “EXERCISE”.

Watch my video and come back often to see what other things I can tell you about bariatric surgery and how to be successful.

Reflecting on Weight Loss Surgery



I have done a lot of reflecting on my Weight Loss Surgery as I spent my 46 birthday in Costa Rica on the beach, hiking to see an amazing waterfall, zip lining and ATV riding through the jungle and knowing none of this would have been possible if I had not made the decision 13 years ago to have weight loss surgery. At 33, when I decided to have surgery, I was 33 and a hundred pounds overweight. I had 2 little boys 5 and 2, and just making it through the day trying to care for and play with them, running a business and taking care of the house and the day was exhausting.

Then I had the “lightbulb” moment and knew I had to do something to change my life.

Clipart showing s skinny women breaking lose of a fat woman

I wanted desperately to have a healthier and happier life for and with my boys. And yes it is a fabulous “tool” as we say, but I knew that day I would do anything and everything I could to achieve it. Making that decision was the start of a transformed life. Has it always been easy the last 13 years, well no. But, it has so been worth it. I have been so blessed to have had both the personal and professional experience as a nurse, educator and coach to help so many others also have a healthier and happier life.

If you or someone you know needs assistance, please have them reach out to me. I will share some pictures of the trip, and hope that it will inspire someone to dream of what life can and will be when the shackles of obesity are removed.

Stefanie Bailey Before WLS

Stefanie Bailey Before WLS

After Weight Loss Surgery

Stefanie Baily After Weight Loss Surgery on Vacation

Welcome to Bariatric and Surgical Assistance Website Blog

Bariatric and Surgical Assistance is here to assist you through your weight loss surgery and to help you in living a much healthier and happier life.

For one thing, we care! We want you to be successful in your weight loss journey.

And, from our experience, you need a mentor to get you through it to a successful conclusion.

However, we want you to know too that it is a life-time journey – not a destination.

Bariatric weight loss surgery may be the next step for people who remain severely obese after trying nonsurgical approaches or for people who have an obesity-related disease. Surgery to produce quick weight loss is a serious undertaking. Anyone thinking about undergoing this type of weight loss surgery should understand what it involves.

I went through it and my mother went through it.

The questions that you might have are numerous and the answers quite complicated.  That’s why anyone going through the surgery needs someone to take the journey with them.  We are here to do that with you.

Contact Us today- don’t wait another minute if you feel that you need bariatric  surgery.